The other day my husband shocked me with a rather deep, insightful conversation about his priorities. About what he spends his time & energy on versus what makes him the happiest.
He broke it down into 4 areas:
- Who I’m with
- Where I am
- What I have
- What I’m doing
He then asked himself what makes him happy.
Since all of those things make him happy to some extent, he rephrased the question: “What makes me happy for the longest time?”
And he came up with his order:
- Where I am : He’s thinking of MOVING! *gasp*
- Who I’m with
- What I’m doing
- What I have
Then he thought about what life looks like now and where he’s spending the most energy & time.
It’s the last item on his list. The thing that makes him happy for the shortest amount of time.
And it got him asking more questions:
- Why do I spend the most time on the thing that doesn’t last?
- How can I start living in a way that reflects the order of conditions?
- What do I need to do/change/be?
My husband is change-averse. This is what really threw me for a loop.
He got me thinking. My list looks like this:
- What I’m doing: I get bored easily. Must be able to do new & different things as I see fit.
- Who I’m with: I treasure awesome people. Get out of the house. Talk to people more.
- Where I am: Keep office & studio clean. Possibly move closer to cultural center.
- What I have: Toys are always fun. Save for good stuff. Just don’t spend all your time lusting/buying.
So how about you? How do you order these happiness conditions? And what do you need to do or change to bring more of what makes you happiest into your life?
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