Tagged: money

Mar 30

Is money *really* the root of all evil?

I was happily reading along on a blog (don’t ask me where, because I didn’t bookmark it) when I came across this awful misquote “money is the root of all evil,” and I had to keep myself from yelling at the computer screen.

The actual quote is “the love of money is the root of all kinds of evil” from 1 Timothy 6:10.

I think this quote, along with the mindset that comes with it, is where lots of people get hung up with regards to their own finances. I’ve heard artists and other creatives misquote this verse as an excuse for why they’re broke, and a justification for why they hate “sell-outs.”

It’s a huge stuck based around the cognitive dissonance of that misquote and the capitalist, consumer-driven, money-centric society us westerners are brought up in.

The thought process may go something like this….

Money is evil. Therefore I must hate money. And I must hate those with money. Because Money is Evil.

But I need money to buy things I need. And I want other stuff that costs money. I wish I had as much money as (insert “rich” person here). If I did, everything would be awesome.

But money is evil… I can’t want money because then I’ll be evil.

*head explodes*

That’s more than enough to cause some major stuckness, and in some cases neuroses, when it comes to handling and managing your finances. In business, this can shut you down.

So let’s dispell the myth that money is evil.

Money is by nature neutral.

It’s a thing we invented to make concrete the abstract concept of value, as a means of exchange.

It can be used for good or all kinds of evil, but that takes a person.

A person can be corrupted by the love of money and the wrong-headed focus on loving money over loving people. That’s where things and people get screwed up. Even people who are broke can fall into this trap and end up seething with jealousy, feeling like a victim and harboring hate towards those who have what they don’t.

But money is not the root of all evil. Not by a long shot.

But the love of money heaps on all kinds of trouble.

What all this means for me: My pursuit of profit in my business is perfectly OK. I’m not a bad person just because I charge for my work.

And I don’t begrudge anyone else their pursuit of a profitable business.

The fact is, you can’t tell anything about me or anyone else just by how much money they have, except that they have money. But you can get a pretty good idea of what kind of person someone is if you look at what she does and how she uses her resources.

The only thing I can say for sure about money is:

Money is an amplifier.

If you’re an asshole when you’re broke, chances are you’ll be an even bigger asshole when you’re rolling in it. And the way you spend your money will reflect that.

But if you’re loving, generous and kind, more money will give you the resources to be just that on a bigger scale.

So remember the next time someone slings “money is the root of all evil” at you, that it’s really the love of money. First love others and yourself. Money’s just a thing for you to use how you see fit.

What do you think? Leave a comment below! :)

Photo Credit: Max Romersa – http://www.sxc.hu/profile/mompes

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Mar 22

The dark side of bartering

Darth Vader (motion-blur fixed)I have bartered service-for-service and product-for-product and a mix of the two in the past. I bartered for the same reason everyone else does. I’m short on cash and long on skills.

On the surface, bartering seems like a win-win. I get what I need for nothing but the work of my hands and my bartering partner gets the same.

Dig deeper. Under that well-meaning surface, a barter is never truly equal. It also devalues the work of everyone involved by putting a $0 price tag on anything that’s bartered.

There’s also a scarcity mindset that’s involved when bartering—that is, the mindset that believes that there isn’t enough for me, that I’m powerless to do anything about the amount of money I have now and will ever have. I’ll let Dave Navarro handle that one (see Breaking out of the scarcity mindset after you’re done reading this post).

What about having a bartering agreement written up and signed by both parties?

Well, I’ve done that too. And it works slightly better than just a handshake (virtual or otherwise)  agreement. At least here, both parties know exactly what to expect and when the agreement is complete, which limits the unfairness.

But it’s still bartering.

Because of the gut-wrenching thing I’ve experienced with this last barter agreement, and based on the advice of someone who’s been doing this thing longer than I, I have come to the conclusion that all bartering sucks and I will not barter with anyone anymore.

Sure, some of this is colored by my recent experience, and I have had a few good bartering experiences, but I think it’s one of those things that will hinder your chances at success if you’re running a business.

I’m sticking to it. No more bartering for me.

Bartering ends up being unequal, and someone ends up short.

Unfortunately the way it works out is someone (or both) feels like they got the short end of the stick. Because perspective is crazy that way.

Or one person does their thing and the other one never follows through.

Major suckage on both ends.

Here’s what happened recently: Because I have a nasty perfectionist streak and because I offered to do something I wasn’t 100% experienced in, I worked over double the initial time agreement, and found myself doing extra things that weren’t mentioned in the beginning. I was most definitely the receiver of the short end.

Bartering takes money completely out of the equation, and relies on both parties giving something away for free.

In this way, bartering devalues the work of all the people involved.

Even if you’re bartering based on equivalent value and it’s written down digitally or otherwise,  it still devalues each party’s work.

In a barter, my work and your work is essentially free. And no one values free. Even if it’s an equivalent exchange.

If you insist you value free stuff, take a look at how many ebooks and white papers you’ve downloaded. Have you read them all? You probably even have things you’ve bought for cheap (i.e. a $15 ebook) that you haven’t even bothered to open.

I am convinced that if I had been paid the full amount I usually charge to do everything I did for this particular barter, this whole thing would have gone more smoothly.

I would have had a contract that spelled out my responsibilities and once those were complete, I’d be done. Any more work would have to cost more money. And possibly I would have a bit more respect from that bartering partner because it would be a professional arrangement spelled out clearly.

I’m also convinced that if I paid for what my bartering partner has offered, even if she paid for my services and I turned around and handed her that same amount of money back to pay for her services, the energy around this whole agreement would be better. Cleaner. Happier.

The exchange of money is sort of magical.

I’m not big on the whole “universal energy” thing or karma or whatever, but there’s something almost magical when money is involved in a transaction.

The person paying values a thing and the person who made/did the thing more than she would if she got it for free.

The person getting money in exchange for their thing is properly compensated for the hard work she did.

Both people are satisfied with the transaction, no one’s hurt, and no one can take advantage of the other.

No matter how you may rail against it, money is important when determining value.

I have no patience for people who say that money’s not important. It is. We left the bartering society behind a long time ago and  money is what we have to work with.

The exchange of money, like it or not, is a reflection of how much you value yourself, your work and the person you’re buying from.

I value my work and my time. And I value the people I work with.

In requesting payment for my work and paying others for their work, there’s some energy thing that happens. It’s a good energy thing. And I prefer it to the uncertain muddy stuff I’ve been slogging through the past few months.

Twitter version: Bartering will suck the life out of you, keep you broke and heap bad mojo on you. So don’t do it. Pay for what you want.

Feel free to leave your comments below. Have you ever had a barter that went sour? What about good experiences?

Creative Commons License photo credit: Andres Rueda

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Sep 03

So money is payment for…?

Michelle Ward‘s latest newsletter hit me hard today.

She went through her working life after college and noticed that only a small percentage of the time was she being paid well for something she loved.

The rest of the time she was paid for drudge work, or not paid very well at all.

Her own coach helped her see that she thought money is payment for torture.

All my life I’ve been paid for doing stuff that really didn’t make me sing.

Some of that work was (and is) borderline torturous. Other work was just plain boring.

I know I can make money doing what I love – after reading countless books and listening to talk after talk about finding your love(s) and making your living at it/them, I know there’s a way.

But my deeply-held beliefs about money have got to change…

Are you saying, “Money is payment for torture” or “Money is payment for what I have to offer the world”?

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